THE FAST ERA, LOVE RELATIONSHIPS, AND SEXUALITY
Author: Dr. Jaqueline Brendler
INTRODUCTION AND OBJECTIVES: The 20th century was marked by the "It-is-all-forever Era", the "Divorce Era", and the "Fast Era", which continues today. I propose to rethink the "Fast Era" in personal and couple contexts.
PROPOSAL: To think about:
- Which is the influence of the globalized world, speed, over the number of hours dedicated to one's profession? Have the hours of "unofficial", "unpaid" work increased?
- Can too much internet draw us away from people in our everyday lives? Can the internet disconnect us from our partner, family, and friends?
- Can a permanent connection to the world through e-mails and cell phones draw us apart from ourselves? How much free time do we have to take care of ourselves?
- Can the absence of geographical obstacles, through the internet, create an illusory increase in the number of affective and sexual partners?
- Can the acceleration and provisionality of the world influence the level of investment we make in our affective and sexual bonds?
- Can the view that entering a relationship might be "easy and quick" make us think that leaving it is also "easy and quick"?
- In sexuality, are men and women making more use of the verbs to act, to impress, to do than to perceive, to feel, to become involved?
- Who is sexuality's best friend: idleness or speed?
SUGGESTED CONCLUSIONS: Rational use of technologies increases time available for us to take care of ourselves and our affective and sexual bonds, as opposed to excessive use. We can create weekly "idleness islands" in our agenda in order to allow more joy and pleasure.
Abstract Book of 1ST World Congress for Sexual Health and 18th Congress of World Association for Sexual Health . Sydney, 2007. World Association for Sexual Health, 2007, p.181.